that 'was' an indian thing..

(article mentioned in the blog is available at this link: 

http://www.thehindu.com/todays-paper/tp-features/tp-openpage/that-truly-indian-thing/article6994645.ece )

On 15^th march, 2015, I read an article in The Hindu with title “that truly Indian thing”, an article which was about the topic which I have been reading from the time since I was able to understand the English language and Indian society. The article was purely based on the need and wishes of “Indian Men” who have the mentality to be in relationship or married to a fair complexioned women. But, I must say the topic of the article still has spark, as it lead to an unending debate with my colleagues.

I agree with the content that majority of the Indian Men do have the mentality to be with a beautiful, cute, sexy and hot female with the fusion of Indian values. They really want to be with a female who should be a combination of looks, values and brain. Also, the family of the guy also wants to have their daughter in law to be perfect in everything, both in appearance as well as family values.

However, what I want to say is, don’t the women want their companion to be smart, intelligent and good earner? I am not offending what was in the article but there are always two sides of the coin. The society and time in which I first read about the articles on same topic has been changed, and truly it changed a lot. Me and my colleagues are in the right age to get married and some of them are about to get married soon. We had a very healthy debate about the article and majority of us agreed to the conclusion that looks doesn’t matter always. Further, I have not met a single girl who do not wants her husband to be handsome, fair, chivalric and with the values of respecting every female on the earth. Believe it, this is a typical human nature.

Every human being somewhere in their mind has a checklist, whether Indian or western or any other place on the world map because it is in our nature to pursue for best. No one wants their companion to be bad looking, dumb or adamant, neither a man nor a woman.

I respect all the thoughts which were put into the article but there is also an other section of the society now, which should be examplified. Though, we Indians are lagging somewhere about this sensitive topic, but the youth is taking the stand to eradicate these kind of lame practices from the society.

Women in our society or not the one who make compromises, sacrifices and devote their selves to lead a healthy married life, however, men are in the same boat too. They also want to spend a harmonious married life without any difficulties and pressure. Believe it or not, men have more pressure to change their lifestyle when a woman is about to move in with them. I would like to share my experience here. A friend of mine met a girl, officially with the permission from both of their parents, before taking any decision to get married. The guy was handsome, a very good earner, gentleman and understanding. The girl was intelligent, good looking and career oriented. Both, spent a day together and found that they are compatible with each other but there were some issues which they decided to handle themselves because they knew they have to alter their lifestyle to make space for each other. But, at the end the girl denied on the ground of finances, as she explained that her lifestyle is somewhat superior than that of the guy. Both respected the decision.

So, these days are far far different from the days in which our parents or their parents got married. The era right now is of mutual understanding and collective decisions. The game now is not man oriented.

And we men are not from Mars, we are very much from the planet Earth and we may still be in search of our Cynthia, but that Cynthia doesn’t need to prove herself to be with us. Let’s discuss the checklist of each other together and convert it into single check list of our own.

From, one of an Indian man.